It is a struggle when you are a writer and a blogger. There is this tension between being authentic in your writing and also keeping in mind the needs and desires of your readers.
What does being authentic in your writing mean?
It means putting your full self in your words and not putting up a façade. It means being open and honest with your audience.
I have created a few other blogs in the past and they all came to an end after a long and slow death. As I have looked back over them and considered what went wrong there is one thing that is consistent. I was trying to be someone I was not.
When I looked at other mom blogs and fitness blogs and I got this idea in my head of what the perfect mom or fitness fanatic should look like. I tried to fit my squiggly shaped self into the square shaped hole. Y’all, it didn’t work.
It hurts when you try to force your shape into the shape others. Click To Tweet
The life cycle of my past blogs is that I would be so excited to be getting my words and voice out there. The fire was there and I believed in my message.
Then I would start losing interest in my blog. I’m confident it was because I was doing exactly what I mentioned above. I stopped writing for myself and focused purely for others.
The funny thing is that I believe my audience would sense a change in my writing and would lose interest.
I was losing authenticity
It wasn’t me who was writing. It was a page views and ad-click seeking robot. You can only cover that up for so long.
Before I started this blog I prayed long and hard about even starting. I didn’t want to start another blog only for it to have the same demise.
I wanted to do things thing differently.
As I was still in the praying and brainstorming phase for this blog, I came across this article by Jeff Goins.
Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.” – Cyrill Connolly
When I read that quote I knew what exactly what my problem was. I was not writing for myself at all.
Writing is a truly creative beast. Take your true self out and you kill it. Click To Tweet
From that day forward, I made a covenant with God and with myself that I would ALWAYS be authentic in my writing. 100%.
Jeff Goins also says in his article “Writing for yourself is the only way to begin writing, in my opinion. You take your audience into account in the editing and tweaking process. You start, though, by writing for you.”
Every day I write my 1000 words. I write those words 100% for me. In these pages, you will see some of the rawest emotions you could ever imagine. Those words are between God and me.
All my blog articles come for my 1000 words a day Word document. The only difference is that I take the very same words and I just tweak and edit a little bit to be more attractive for other people and the internet.
It always starts with me and my authentic self.
Do the people-pleasing tendencies try to come out to play? Absolutely.
For example, I knew I wanted to write this blog article. I sat down to write and the words weren’t coming. I sat here for probably 5 minutes just staring at the screen.
Then I literally slapped myself and said, “Sarah, for crying out loud. You want to write about authenticity in writing and yet you are still trying to get it just right. Just WRITE…For….yourself. The rest will come.”
What’s the take-home point here? JUST WRITE!
Write for yourself and only yourself. Write for an Audience of One. Forget all the other people. And in so doing you will impact more lives than you thought possible. Click To Tweet
If you feel discouraged as a writer please consider taking a step back and asking yourself WHY you write and WHY you love writing.
Then go back to that place and just write. Don’t write for anyone but yourself. Find healing in that practice. And then, when you are ready, share your authentic writing with the world. See what happens.
People are waiting to hear YOUR voice. They don’t want to hear someone else’s voice through you. They Want YOU.
Oh, and while you’re at it. Also, go get Jeff Goins FREE ebook “The Writer’s Manifesto.” Hear the rallying cry of authentic writers and get to work.