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Writing a Social Media Contract With Myself

A few weeks ago, I wrote out a contract with myself for social media. There needed to be some boundaries set into place. I am not saying that social media is completely bad. I know there is plenty of good that can come from it.

However, I also know that there is plenty of bad stuff that can come from it. I know that I have a tendency to compare myself to other people and situations and I have a tendency to judge.

I have noticed a direct correlation between my emotional state and view of the world and how things are going on Facebook. It’s terrible to think that I am that wrapped up in Facebook. Embarrassing might be a better way to explain it. (*blush*)

The number one thing, though, that’s not good about social media is that it is an awful time waster. I know that I could have had so much more stuff done in my life if Facebook had never entered the scene.  If it weren’t for me feeling like crap about myself, covering that up by judging other people, and then spend all my time doing stupid things, I know I’d be in a completely different place.  I might have even written a book by now. Instead of lingering on the past I am choosing to name it for what it is, repent of it, and then move on.

So, today I wrote about the contract stating this…

No Social Media UNTIL…

  • Time with my Savior
  • Said my affirmations
  • Cleaned one area in the house
  • Complete Top 3 Items on To-Do List
  • Read a Book
  • Workout (Monday – Friday)
  • Write 1000 words
  • Read or Listened to Coaching
  • Self-Care

I will complete all those tasks before I get on any form of social media. I know full well that this will mean that some, if not most, days will not allow for social media. Does that make me sad? It sure does!  And that’s not good!!  WHY would I be sad about not going on social media? It means my priorities have gotten majorly out of whack. The items I listed above are all the things I believe are far more important than social media. These are the things that need to happen first each and every day.

“I will be diligent in my work each day and let God take care of the future.” Click To Tweet

I have seen so much good come from this social media contract with myself. It is pretty amazing. I helped me put my priorities back into the proper place for the most part. I will confess there are days when I do check social media at times that do not coincide with this contract. Those days usually coincide with some world event that I’m watching closely. For example, I was on Facebook way too much when watching Hurricane Irma. Or, I find I need to do some social media work that relates to this blog. 

It is so refreshing to be reclaiming my life and living the life I want to live. To live in freedom and on my own terms is quite the victory. It’s happening!!!

What do you think? Do you find social media to be a threat to your time or emotions? What steps have you taken to beat it? 

 

 

 
 


 

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How Writing 1000 Words A Day Changed My Life….Too

Ever since college I have been an on again and off again writer. I’ve been a very fickle writer, to be honest. I’ve already started 3 blogs before this one. They all had different focuses. I loved writing for each one of those blogs. Writing is definitely my happy place. 

But, what killed it all is that I  never wrote just for me. When I ran out of ideas of what to write about I would just suffer in my writer’s block and not write at all. I would dream of all the wonderful solutions to my lack of creativity.  Yes, a cute little cottage in the Appalachian Mountains would be the perfect place for writing inspiration. I actually got bored with my life believing that there just wasn’t enough writing fodder in my life. All my writing would sit dormant whenever I was in a creative dessert.

After every especially long period of non-writing, I would finally talk myself into believing that I was not actually a writer. A good writer would always have something to write, right? A true writer would never experience writer’s block, right? Wouldn’t a true writer have an exciting life in which to write awesome pieces about? My perfectionism would get the best of me every single time.

Wow. I am really good at feeding myself some pretty epic lies.

The funny thing is that no matter how many times I convinced myself that I was not a writer, I would slowly die on the inside because I was not writing. 

It has taken me a long time to admit it but I am not completely fulfilled unless I am writing. I AM A WRITER!! That’s the end of the matter.

 

The Solution

 

It was about a year ago that I found an article with the  title, “How Writing 1000 Words a Day Changed My Life.”

This particular article was like getting slapped upside the head. The tagline said, “Why behavior matters more than outcome.” I couldn’t get that saying out of my head. 

He wrote, “If I waited to be inspired, I was screwed.”

That hit me like a ton of bricks. That was my problem!!! I was always waiting to be inspired to write. Inspiration is a very fickle thing. 

This guy said he committed to write 1000 words a day no matter what. It could be gibberish or it could be publishable material. It didn’t matter.

Write 1000 words day….no matter what. And see what happens. Click To Tweet

Guess what?  A writer…..WRITES!! A writer writes a lot.

So, I took this guy’s advice to write 1000 words a day. 

Some days I am “inspired” and it is easy for my fingers to fly through the 1000 words. Other days I have absolutely no idea what to write about. I still sit down at the computer and write. It will be complete garbage. It won’t make any sense whatsoever. But, as I write the garbage slowly becomes gold. It’s a rather fun experience. 

Behavior matters more than outcome. Click To Tweet

What’s happened since I started writing 1000 words a day?

 

I am a fulfilled writer. I have an outlet for all the words swirling around in my head. Even before I started this blog I was writing 1000 words a day and wrote hundreds of pages on my computer. Most of my blog posts come from the pages and pages of words I have written over the last few months. 

So, yes, writing 1000 words a day has completely changed my life. 

Have you ever had a “DUH!” moment that changed your life? PLEASE share in the comments!!!


 

 

 

Developing the habit of writing 1000 words a day has changed my life in some pretty awesome ways. What about you?
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Breaking Free of Perfectionism

There is something kind of evil about perfectionism. Maybe the word “evil” is a bit extreme but I think it still fits to some extent.

The reason I say evil is because perfectionism is downright crippling and paralyzing.

I think back to the number of times that I have wanted to do something but I never got anything off the ground because I was stuck in it being perfect. 

This blog is a perfect example. It is an exercise in getting out of perfectionism.

I believe that is the main reason God told me to start this blog among many other reasons. 

It comes down to God is calling me out of my old life and you being invited along for the ride. Click To Tweet

I think perfectionism has a root in Fear of Man or People Pleasing. How easy is it to go looking around at the plethora of blogs out there? I can see all the professional blogs that look insane and amazing with one click of the mouse.

Then I look at my blog. Yeah. It’s not up to that caliber…yet. 

That’s pretty clear. I compare and compare. My blog never matches up in my mind. Then I don’t want to launch this blog because it doesn’t look perfect. The writing isn’t perfect. The offerings are not perfect. Nothing is perfect. And Lord knows, the writer is not perfect.

So, I dawdle and twiddle my thumbs and fill time up doing pointless tasks that don’t actually get this website launched. I am afraid of putting this out there because it isn’t perfect. And who in the world wants to read it? There are tons of other writers who are more “perfect” than me, right? 

Here’s the cool thing.

I see this perfectionism in me.

I know it’s there. In many ways, I am not a perfectionist. For example, my house is not perfect nor do I pursue perfect in my house. 

This blog is completely different. God has put a dream and a vision in my heart. It is strange but there is something in me that says people might actually want to read my words and join me on this journey of healing and victory. 

And that scares the poop out of me. This is where perfectionism comes in. The Fear of Man or People Pleasing drowns out the words of my Father. I focus on what I think everyone will say and think and I combat those voices by trying to make everything absolutely perfect. I find my definition of perfect by looking at other people and other blogs. It is crippling and paralyzing. I get nothing done. 

How did I combat this? 

I have to admit that something has to be done no matter what. 

I have to follow Nike and Just Do It.

Accept the imperfections. God is glorified in our weakness and willingness to follow Him. Click To Tweet

I know that this is not perfect. My biggest accomplishment is getting it done and I am proud of that. I am proud of putting my heart out in front of people. I  am pushing past my perfectionism and my fear of man and I am putting my whole self on the line. 

Thank you for joining me on this awesome adventure!!! I am sharing my whole self with the world. While it is scary as poo I pray God uses this journey to help others on their own journeys.

 
 


 

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Climb The Mountain Afraid

One thing that I didn’t mention in my ABOUT ME  page is that I have a strange fascination with Mount Everest. I have been fascinated with that beautiful and amazing mountain for probably twenty years. There have been countless movies, documentaries, books, and articles consumed over the years to fuel this fascination. I especially love the stories of all the people who have climbed that mountain: the victories and the tragedies. You can bet your bottom dollar it is on my bucket list to make the trek to base camp so I can look upon that mountain with my own two eyes.

I follow a page on Instagram called Himalayas High for some of my fix of Mt. Everest and mountain climbing goodness. A few weeks ago I came across this picture and quote on their page.

Courtesy of Instagram Himalyas High (@himalayanhigh)

“Sometimes the fear won’t go away so you have to climb that goddamn mountain afraid.” (Instagram: @himalayanhigh) Click To Tweet

While I really don’t like the use the expletives I couldn’t help but be taken aback a bit by this quote. I had to sit with it for a while and ponder what it was saying. And then I had to relate the quote to my own life.

Climbing Mt. Everest has been a metaphor for my life in many ways. In my mind, climbing that mountain all the way to the summit would mean overcoming all the barriers in my life. It would mean pushing all the negative self-talk and doubt out of the way and moving forward to my dream of touching the highest point on earth.

Writing has always been my Mt. Everest. Click To Tweet

I see this awe-inspiring mountain in front of me and long to climb it all the way to the top. And then once I start my trek to the top I am overcome with fear that I will die on that mountain. The thin air will suffocate me or I will fall into a seemingly bottomless crevasse. So, I turn around and head back to base camp and then right back on that plane back home. I stop when I have barely started.

I start writing with my eyes on the summit and it is awesome. I’m going to do this. And then all the excuses for not writing flood my mind. The air of fear is suffocating and I trip and stumble around the crevasses of doubt.  I stop writing. I tell myself that I will go back and write when I am in a good place and there is no fear.

Where does this fear come from? I can identify two main sources of fear.

 

Always Seeking Safety and Not Taking Risks

For as long as I can remember people said that I hate change.

It’s true. I hate change and I resist it like a tiger. I hate moving. Routine changes will throw me for a major loop. I love for things to stay the same and comfortable. My whole life has been centered on pursuing comfort.

While this may seem all comfy and cozy the truth is that it has totally stunk. Why? It is because the constant desire for comfort means that I am always wanting to be safe and I am not willing to take risks. And that place is boring and soul crushing. It is soul crushing to someone who is uncovering a heart for adventure.

Going after a dream of writing means taking risks. It means putting myself out there. And it means putting comfort aside and replacing it with a scary adventure.

Is it worth it? I think so.

 

Fear of Man

I would say Fear of Man is the number one reason I have resisted writing. I have told myself just about every reason why I should never write for the public.

You can’t write well.

No one will read your stuff.

People will criticize your writing.

You will die a starving author, unsung and unappreciated.

Everything you desire to write about has already been written by people who are better at it than you anyway.

People will think I am dumb for ever considering going after this.

This list goes on and on.

My fear of what people would say or think about my writing has paralyzed my fingers.

Until now, that is.

 

I have a secret to share with you. I have been writing in private for quite a long time. I gave myself the challenge to write one thousand words a day no matter what. With the exception of weekends, I have followed through with my challenge. I have a huge Word document on my desktop that is just dripping with my thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it is the basic day to day happenings and sometimes it is me yelling at God as I’m trying to sort through all kinds of situations. I wrote and wrote and wrote but I didn’t want to share with anyone. What would people think if they really knew what went on in my head?

And then I saw that quote on Instagram and it knocked my feet out from under me. It’s funny how God speaks to us in such perfect ways for each of us as individuals. It took the picture of guy climbing a snow covered mountain and the words, ““Sometimes the fear won’t go away so you have to that climb the goddamn mountain afraid,” to get my butt moving.

You see, anything worth doing is going to make me afraid. And that’s good!

That fear shows me WHO is actually in charge and that I can’t do this alone after all. That fear forces me to my knees saying, “Jesus, you have called me to do this but I am so weak and scared. PLEASE help me!!” And then He responds, “Let’s do this together. Get up and walk. Keep your eyes on me. I am always with you.”  

On the other hand, this fear could keep me right where I have been for the longest time. It could keep me paralyzed and exactly where the Enemy wants me, doing nothing. And doing nothing means that God is not glorified by His work being done through me.

 

I have a choice to make.

I choose to climb afraid.

I CHOOSE to write afraid.

 

Dale Carnegie said, “If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” Click To Tweet

 

Is there something that scares you?

Are you willing to do it afraid?

What do you need to do today to start that climb to the summit?

 

 

 

Martin Jernberg

>Sometimes the fear won’t go away so you have to climb that goddamn mountain afraid

 

Learning to chase your dream even when afraid.
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