Do you ever have those feelings of wanting to quit?
There was a time when you were so passionate about your current project. The vision and the why were strong enough to get you up in the morning and to get you working with reckless abandon till the wee hours of the night.
Then the Honeymoon period passed.
The zing is gone. It starts getting hard. There are new roadblocks and dead ends. Your desire to work on this project is going away, just like the wind.
And then the thought pops into your head. What thought, you ask?
What if I just quit?
How things would be simpler and easier then!! What a wonderful thought!
But, you’ve worked too hard to quit and yet, you just can’t shake those feelings. What should you do now?
How do you fight off the feeling of wanting to quit?
Give Yourself Five Seconds
Running away from our feelings or denying that we are having negative feelings is not the solution to anything. We need to acknowledge that we are having these feelings so that we can work through them and figure out why they are happening to begin with.
So, you want to quit. Nothing seems to be working and you want to give up on this thing and move on to the next shiny thing.
I hear you. It totally stinks.
Give yourself FIVE seconds to wallow and whimper and whine. It’s okay. Go ahead. Feel ALL the feelings.
Some problems may be big enough that five seconds just doesn’t cut it. That’s okay. Allow yourself that time. But, put a time limit on the wallowing and stick to that time limit. You can’t wallow forever and get anywhere good.
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Exercising is my go-to method of clearing my mind of all the junk and seeing things more clearly.
I especially love to go for really long runs and the length of the runs is often determined by how much junk needs to be cleared out. I never regret a run. (Well, there was that one time when I severely rolled my ankle about three miles from home and I had to start hobbling home while I waited for my husband to pick me up.) I also enjoy a good cleansing yoga workout for mind clearing and mood lifting.
Do something that is physically challenging. Run farther than you thought possible, do a yoga flow you thought way too hard, or lift weights you didn’t think you were ready for.
Whatever your preconceived limits are, go after them like a tiger, and prove to yourself that those limits were actually all in your head.
And guess what?
So are the limits you have in your head for whatever you ware wanting to quit.
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Be Inspired By Someone Else
I am a visual learner and I love to watch all kinds of videos on YouTube. I love TED Talks, coaching videos, motivational videos, etc.
When I’m feeling like I want to quit I almost always go to YouTube and find a video about someone who pushed past her limits and did something amazing. It can be just about anything. It can be someone climbing Mt. Everest or completing some crazy ultramarathon or even refusing to accept the life the world was dealing her and pulling herself up by her bootstraps.
Watching regular people do seemingly impossible things proves to me that it’s not actually impossible. It’s just a matter of solving problems.
Tap Into Your WHY
If you haven’t already, use the FIVE WHYS Exercise to figure the deepest reason of why you took on this project, to begin with.
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It is that reason that will keep you moving forward no matter how hard it gets.
That WHY is much bigger than you and it transcends everything that could go wrong.
That WHY has the strength and the courage to take on any obstacle with reckless abandon.
It is normal to tuck the why away when the work gets overwhelming. Don’t feel bad if you forget your Why. That’s why you have to remind yourself of the WHY and tap into the power you find there.
Refuse to Quit…Today
There are days when the feeling of wanting to quit is so overwhelming that it seems like the only option. Deep down you don’t want to really quit but what else is there to do?
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Promise yourself that TODAY, you will NOT quit.
Tomorrow, maybe you’ll quit. But, not today.
This is similar to a mind trick or game I play with myself when I’m on a particularly long run. There are almost always times when I feel like I need to quit and stop running. My legs burn, I’m tired, I can’t breathe, whatever the reason may be. The desire to stop running is really REALLY strong. I know there is always more in the tank than what my mind is telling me.
I promise myself that if I run to a certain tree or street lamp in the distance then I can stop running and walk home. That is always just enough to keep me powered up and moving forward because I know there is an end in sight.
Once I get to the blessed promised tree, I repeat the process. Run that that next tree and THEN you can stop running and walk home.
Rinse and repeat. It works every time.
Today is your tree in the distance.
Refuse to quit until you get to the end of the day or tree and then walk home. You did what you promised yourself.
Tomorrow, repeat. Your next tree is at the end of that day. Refuse to quit until you get there.
Keep doing this over and over and over and over. Next thing you know you never quit after all and you did far more than you ever thought possible.
Count Your Blessings And Wins
Remind yourself that you GET to do this!!
Remember that most people in the world don’t have the opportunities that YOU have.
Start a Gratitude and Wins Journal and write in it every single day, morning and night.
Keep a record of all your WINS no matter how small to remind yourself that you really ARE making progress even if seemingly minuscule. Forward is forward.
Use your Gratitude and Wins Journal for an attitude check.
Things may seem bad but when you are reminded of all the things you are doing right then your eyes are more open to the future and how you will get there.
Ready to not quit and tackle your goal?!
Let’s do this!
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