Do you ever have those days or weeks or months when you are struggling to stay focused?
Do you remember a time when you your vision and purpose for your writing was so crystal clear that it compelled you to move forward at a rapid pace? You couldn’t help constantly thinking about what to write next. Every detail was a pleasure to complete.
And then, slowly over time, you notice your desire to write waning.
The ideas just aren’t coming to you like they once did. You try to write each day but, bit by bit, little things get in the way and notice that days can go by without any writing. You miss the writing at first but then one day, you notice this feeling that, if you are honest, you don’t really want to write after all. You’d rather just watch Netflix. There is always tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and it is just a repeat of yesterday. Your idea notebook sits on the desk, collecting dust, a memorial to another lost dream.
The fog in your brain is so thick that it can be likened to the London Fog. It is thick and poisonous and soul-sucking.
You remember there was once a day of focus and vision and passion. You remember how awesome it felt to jump out of bed each morning with purpose.
How can you get that vision and purpose back? Is it even possible to get that vision and purpose back?
Here is what I have found that works.
It is when I am allowing the busyness of every day living to overwhelm me that I lose focus. It is like my mind is in a constant spin cycle that never slows down. Day to day tasks just keep swirling at an ever-increasing speed and there is no room or time to think big thoughts or to dream. There is no room for the magic that makes dreams come true.
It is then that I need to just slow down. Unnecessary things need to be taken out of my schedule to allow the space in my mind to start operating on the plane where dreams exist instead of just being in survival mode.
It is a stressed out and over-tasked mind that loses its ability to dream. Click To Tweet
This is part of the slowing down process.
If you are not slowing down there is no time or space to sit still long enough to meditate and/or pray. And it is in the space of meditation and prayer where the dreams are born.
When I feel the vision and purpose waning I ask myself when was the last time that I spent any amount of time in prayer or meditation. And just about every single time, I can see that the busyness of life has brought me to the point of not slowing down long enough to allow for prayer. It’s sad but it’s true.
When I slow down and make prayer a priority the vision always comes back with a burning passion.
It is so easy for me to always put my family before myself.
But, here’s the thing.
When I am in that constant spin cycle of taking care of my house and family and others, I forget to take care of myself. When I forget to take care of myself for too long I run out of steam. And that’s when I start to break down. My grasp on WHO I am and what I want to accomplish is lost in the wind. That’s when I lose my passion and my vision for my own goals and dreams.
To regain the passion and vision, I need to make my own self-care a priority. I acknowledge that I am important to my family and they need a full version of me available to them. And I full version of ME has her own goals and vision and dreams.
Self-care is going to be different for everyone.
What does it look like for me?
I am currently training for my first full marathon. I love to run, be outside, and be alone. Running provides all of those things.
One night a week I get to “clock out” and do what I want to do while my husband and son do their own thing for the evening.
Reading. I love to read and the amount of reading I do is also a direct reflection of how “busy” I am. Taking the time to sit down and read a good book means I am slowing down and making myself a priority. It also expands my thinking and my ability to dream.
Getting plenty of sleep. When I am tired I have no desire to go after anything of substance.
Make Writing a Priority
When the vision is falling apart there is another symptom that is evident just about every time: I stop writing every day. Chores, homeschool, pointless tasks, and dare I say, social media (*cough cough*) become far more important than writing and they fill up all the time in the day. There just isn’t any time left in the day to write!! At least, that’s what I tell myself.
If I only wrote when the vision or inspiration is strong then I quite possibly would only write a few days out of the year. That’s the gosh honest truth.
If my dream is to be a writer then I just need to write every day. Writing MUST be a priority whether I feel like it or not.
That’s why I always have the Write 1000 Words a Day Challenge up on the wall. It sure does stink when a long streak comes to a screeching halt and I need to start the streak all over again.
I am human. I have seasons when I don’t write my 1000 Words A day. It happens to everyone. But, I know how to resurrect this habit pretty quickly. And when I make writing a priority I remember how much I love it pretty quickly. The fog starts lifting and the ideas start to flow.
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Remind Myself of the WHY with the FIVE WHY’s
Sometimes it just takes a little mental exercise to remind myself of why I want to do this in the first place.
This is when I bring in the FIVE WHY’S.
This is the exercise where you ask yourself WHY you want to do something and you keep asking yourself the same question until you have gone five levels deep. It is there that the true WHY lives. That is where the true vision and passion can be recovered again.
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Here is a basic example of the FIVE WHY’s that has to do with weight loss.
Why am I on this journey?
I want to lose fat.
Why do I want to lose fat?
Because I want to fit into a smaller size of pants.
But why do I want to fit into a smaller size of pants?
Because when I’m wearing smaller pants, I think I’ll look better.
But why do I want to look better?
Because when I look good, I feel good about myself.
But why do I want to feel good about myself?
Because when I feel good about myself, I’m more assertive and confident.
But why do I want to be more assertive and confident?
Because when I’m more assertive and confident, I’m in control and better able to get what I want out of life.
To do the Five Why’s means you have to be willing to get raw and vulnerable with yourself. It requires some deep soul work. You will be so glad when it’s done because you will have, hopefully, cemented WHY you are doing all this and that WHY will always be there to fuel your passion.
Don’t be dismayed if you veer off course. What matters is that you get back on track and make forward progress. Click To Tweet
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